Last night on, my best friend whom I have never met, Rachel Lindsay, absolutely killed it during the course of its hometown dates, despite some unbelievably awkward situations.
She managed to have fun with Eric’s family and truly bring them together, even though they had been througha series of trials and tribulations throughout his upbringing. Shesomehowwooed Bryan’s highly protective mom.
She also did her best todiffuse an unbelievably stressful and heartbreaking situation, as Dean’s estranged family came together for the first time in eight years.
Rachel appeared to be a pro at meeting the mothers. She was warm and engaging with all of the families. She brought a gift each time she depicted up to a home. She asked the important questions, but didn’t overstep her borders. She also had killer meet the parents outfits.
Meeting the family is an incredibly important step in a relationship one you should approach very carefully. So how are you supposed to do it successfully?
Well, I’ve got you covered. If you’re meeting your partner’s parents soon, here are sometips to kill it with your SO’s parents.
1. Bring A Gift
When you’re meeting the mothers, it’s always appropriate to bringing a present.
Does it have to be fine china, a new outdoor furniture set, a racehorse, or a Ferrari? Perfectly not.
But when you come over to someone’s home, you don’t want to come empty handed. Bring a bottle of wine, or even a nice bouquet of blooms. If you know something specific about the family( the mom collects candles or the dad loves BBQ sauce ), bring your partner’s parents something unique that you know they would love.
A present shows that you care, you’re grateful you’re being invited into their home, and you set some deliberate thought and effort into the first meeting.
They’ll love you for it before you even walk through the door.
2. Dress Appropriately
Meeting the mothers for the first time is the best place to wear a crop top and jean shorts.
Hey, I’m all about body positivity and wearing whatever you feel comfortable in. But when you’re meeting your potential future in-laws, you’ve got to dress the portion. And the part tells mature, appropriate person whose butt cheek you can’t see.
So when you’re meeting your partner’s mothers, dress like it’s a job interview or a holiday. You don’t have to wear a power suit or a ballgown, but conservative-ish is best. For example, try jeans and a blouse, a cute dress, or a skirt and a sweater, all paired off with some statement jewelry.
Remember, you can only make a first impression once.
3. Offer To Do The Dishes
My college boyfriend helped my mom do the dishes after feeing the first time he came over for dinner, and my mama still talks about him to this day.
We’ve literally been broken up for, like, 10 years now, but it made good of a first impression.
When you satisfy theparents for the first time, offer to be helpful around the house. Most likely, you’ll merely be told to sit down and relax. But showing that you want to be of service is a great indicator of the type of person you are and, most likely, the kind of girlfriend you are.
Your partner’s mothers will take note of that, and it will make them like you even more.
4. Engage In Conversation
Being completely silent is suspicious and will create a lot of awkward tension. But talking too much canmake you seem nervous.
Am I freaking you out? Don’t be. There’s a happy medium.
Let your partner’s family defined the tone for the conversation. Are they more serious? Funny? Reserved? Feel it out and join in accordingly.
Talk about how great their son is, and ask a few questions about what he was like as small children. You can even tell his familyabout how you met or share narratives about fun vacations you might have taken together.
Keep the conversation light and easy, and usually, try avoid politics or current events. That can get messy.
5. Don’t Get Wasted
This should be obvious, right?
It’s always best not to drink before you meet your partner’s mothers. You don’t want to show up smell of booze not a good look.
Additionally, during dinner, lunch, or whatever you’re doing with them, restriction yourself to one or two glasses of wine if you’re drinking at all. Shots are a definite no-go.
While you might be seduced to over-drink to mitigate your nervousnes, get drunk the first time you meet your SO’s mothers is not the most effective ways to go. It won’t stimulate them take you severely, and it can define you up for disaster.
6. Don’t Engage In Obnoxious PDA
Whatever you do, don’t play tonsil hockey in front of your partner’s mom and dad.
One of my brother’s girlfriends was once constantly making out with him in front of the family, and I remember it making me her. Save it for the bedroom! You’re grossing everyone out!
When you’re meeting your partner’s parents for the first time, keep it PG. A few pecks and some light nuzzling are fine, simply to indicate to his family that you are indeed interested in one another and have chemistry.
But heavy petting in front of the parents can sometimes seem disrespectful. Don’t do it.
To summarize, when it’s time to meet the parents, remember: Don’t drink so much you blackout, don’t show up in booty shorts, and don’t try to hook up with your future father-in-law.
Instead, have taken part in conversation, be helpful, bring a gift, and indicatewhat kind of family member you could potentially be.